Theory of Mind

Many on the Autism spectrum have difficulty with theory of mind. Presuming that others have unique ideas, thoughts, and feelings different from their own. Ellie definitely has challenges with it. Last night, however, was the CUTEST example of this. EVER.

Ellie was on my lap, head back, under my chin. I was lightly moving my fingertips up and down her arm. When I stopped, she reached over, picked up my hand, put it back on her arm, and moved it up and down, indicating she was not finished with this luxurious moment. I started to giggle and so did she. I told her I used to do the very same thing to my Mom when she stopped tickling my skin. Ellie said, “YOU DID?!?! Boy, you and your Mom were really good guessers.” To her, the only reason my own Mom and I would have ever done that is because we knew Ellie would do the same thing. Funny. In that moment, I couldn’t think of a better explanation. So, we’re going with it.

P.S. I miss you Mom. You would have delighted in your granddaughter.

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Author:karacter
Date: Tuesday, 3. July 2012 22:00
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5 comments

  1. Grace
    Tuesday, 3. July 2012 22:34
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    It really is all about them, isn’t it? I’m just laughing and shaking my head because my son is the same way.

  2. Lizbeth
    Tuesday, 3. July 2012 23:31
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    I love your Ellie. And I’m sorry about your mom. I caught that. Sometimes in the littlest of things or the flutter of the wind it comes back to us when we least expect it. Hugs and love my friend.

  3. Molly
    Wednesday, 4. July 2012 0:36
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    I miss your mom too. She would have been an awesome Grandma. I know she is smiling down on you and is loving Ellie as much as you do. God bless that kid.

  4. Jean wilson
    Wednesday, 4. July 2012 2:37
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    Yes, your Mom would gotten the biggest charges from Ellie! She is a real gift!! I just love her to pieces. She has special challenges, but together you can help her work with this to get her potential. Hey, I was blown away wham you said she was sitting on your lap w/ her head on your shoulder!!! THAT was something I’d love to happen someday!!

  5. Karen V.
    Wednesday, 4. July 2012 3:01
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    What a loving moment! And yes, you and your mom were pretty insightful, weren’t you? ;)

    I’m sure your mom is laughing with you. xoxo